This year our team is making big shifts to step more into our purpose to give you the tools and the power to help you dive deeper into healing yourself and feeling your best. Our column, Unraveling, focuses on a new topic each month that we believe is important to address when you’re trying to navigate all the different stages of growth in your life. The purpose of this column is to help you drop the identity of all the programming and conditioning you’ve taken on throughout your life that’s negatively (and often silently) impacting your health and wellbeing on the physical, emotional and energetic layers of your body.
It’s not the same as self-esteem. That’s a whole other shebang that we’ll get to another time. Today we’re focusing on self-acceptance.
To me, self-acceptance is unconditional, meaning it doesn’t have any conditions tied to it such as “I’ll accept myself if I lose 10 pounds,” “I’ll accept myself if those good looking men notice me,” “I’ll accept myself if I get promoted”… those are all conditions that we put on ourselves and self-acceptance doesn’t work when there are conditions. Trust me. I’ve tried.
After three and a half decades of life, I’ve gotten to a really comfortable place with accepting myself, my flaws, my limitations, my faults, and so on. I truly don’t see anything that’s happened in my past as a failure. From the outside, someone may say my 12-year traumatic journey of healing my body, my tumultuous relationship with my father (which has been healed), getting my heart broken and taking 14 years to heal it were all failures. I’m sure many people look at these past scenarios as awful situations but I don’t.
These experiences have shaped me. They’ve changed me. They’ve made me stronger. They’ve made me the woman I am today. And for that, I’m grateful. This quote by Maya Angelou pretty much sums it up.
“You may not control all the events that happen to you, but you can decide not to be reduced by them.”
– Maya Angelou
I’ve learned a heck of a lot from healing my body, which goes FAR beyond taking a pill and hoping for the best. True healing, from my experience, happens on the physical, emotional and energetic layers of the body, all of which are addressed in The Valpone Method™.
That said, when you are on a journey like this to FEEL BETTER, you spend a lot of time on your own in bed thinking, thinking, thinking, feeling, feeling, feeling, wondering, wondering, wondering….and so on. So, I’ve come to accept that I’m a much deeper person than my early 20-something self. There’s no room for surface anything in my life anymore. I crave depth. You’re deep, too? Great, we’ll be friends.
The Answers Aren’t in a Book
There is no book or lecture or degree that could have taught me what I’ve learned from healing myself because the answers to what truly healed me aren’t in those mediums. This journey to self-acceptance and healing yourself has to be experienced and felt and moved through and processed and understood, which is exactly why The Valpone Method™ includes layers beyond the physical.
Reading a book on how to heal your thyroid ain’t gonna get you too far. Sure, it will help you a bit and it might make you feel better for a few months or a year but until the core issue(s) is addressed, your body is still going to be fighting you. That’s the truth and I’ll be the FIRST person to tell you this is not easy to hear because we live in a quick-fix world.
So, because the answers that actually brought me back to life weren’t found in books or lectures, I feel it’s time for me to help other women like you dive into your own inner strength so you can, in turn, heal yourselves.
That said, during this journey I’ve become more self-forgiving of myself.
I realized I’m enough and stopped trying to improve myself with every self-help book that really wasn’t getting into the operating system of what was going on at the root of my health issues.
And here’s what I learned.
I’ve learned how to let go of the self-judgment that constantly screamed at me on a daily basis like an inner critic.
I’ve stopped comparing myself to others.
I’ve stopped competing with others.
I’ve stopped needing that ‘high’ you get when you talk about someone and it makes you feel better for a hot second.
I’ve stopped needing to be right.
And I’ve come to accept my singular individuality just the way I am.
Nothing happened for these things to register and shift in my mind. I didn’t recite a poem or take a 5-step course or read another book or spend time with a guru. I simply just let go, stopped fighting myself and started accepting myself more (much easier said than done).
I started becoming conscious of the unconscious BS I have been telling myself all these years. I started incorporating the plethora of information I’ve learned from over 500 doctors, healers, clinics and more that I visited to heal my own body. I started moving away from things, places, people and energy (ex: gossip) that didn’t feel good anymore and I made a new life for myself. I started slowly and put all the pieces together of everything I’ve learned into a program called The Valpone Method™, which is what I teach at my retreats and to my private clients, and is soon-to-be an online program.
When you start accepting yourself, you no longer worry about what other people think or say about you and your life starts to take on a whole new energy filled with flow and spontaneity because you’re truly just being YOU without any of the conditions you’ve been chaining yourself to for far too long.
You start to relax your body, which allows your mind to relax and you allow the real YOU to be seen and exposed instead of hiding that scared women inside of you. You become PROUD OF HER, that woman inside of you who is kicking and screaming to come out and play. You start to embrace the energetics of allowing and receiving and feminine and masculine, which are key for understanding manifestation and creation in your own personal life.
You no longer feel shame or guilt or hear that voice in your head saying, “Who do you think you are?!?” Because you’re learning how to reveal the real you as you accept yourself for who you are. And when that happens, WOW, life starts to really open up and new people enter your life, new paths start to open up that you never imagined before and most of all, you will sit in awe that you have come to a place where you finally accept yourself and others and let me tell you…IT IS A BEAUTIFUL THING. This is manifestation. This is creation. This is how our inner world creates our outer world. How our inner reality shapes our outer reality. This is quantum physics and this is how we start to take our power back, become the creators of our own lives and embrace our inner environment with self-acceptance because everything we experience starts inside of us.
THIS IS LIFE, ladies.
THIS is life.
All of this and so much more will be in my upcoming retreat, The Whole Body Transformation, taking place August 9-11th in Santa Cruz, California, where I’ll dive into helping you understand the missing pieces keeping you stuck, symptomatic and unwell because let’s be honest, many of the answers lay outside of the blood work and CT scans. My goal is to make you your own expert, to take back your power and most of all, learn how to listen to your body’s own feedback mechanism so you can heal yourself.
We’ll be covering plenty of manifestation, understanding trauma and the subconscious mind, limiting beliefs, detoxification, the nervous system, liver support, gut health and more because all of these elements make up a few of the pieces of The Valpone Method™ that I’ve created to help you get your life back and heal yourself. There is too much toxicity and stress in our world today to just take a pill, go to the gym and eat a salad – those days are long gone. It’s time to learn how to take care of yourself so that you can transform yourself and step into the life you’re meant to live. Join me in August. I hope to see you there! Click here for more information on the retreat.
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